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Why Kids Lie and How to End It Now! Bryan Post – Live

Bryan Post presents his uniquely different truly love-based Family Centered approach to helping children with challenging behaviors. When you don’t understand your child, the behaviors are abnormal, unpredictable and uncontrollable. Once understood, their behaviors are not only normal, but also predictable and changeable. The plasticity of the brain allows for interruptions in neural pathways that will promote visible changes in behaviors. With love all things are possible.

Love is. No Ifs or buts about it

Love-is-FreeA child does not feel loved because you say you love him. Love is an expression, an energy. It is not conveyed merely through saying the words. It is conveyed within the silence of space through vibration and rhythm. and feeling. Even actions may not convey love if they are not expressed with an energy of love. Have you ever received a hug or a kiss that had no energy behind it? Love is always present when we are open to it, but we must be open and willing to express and share it. When you say “I love you” INTEND it. When you hug, hug with energy and love. Make love come alive in your relationships. All else pales in comparison, if a child does not feel loved. It will do your child no good to talk about how much you love her if she does not experience your love through your actions. There are no “ifs” or “buts”.  There are no conditions in love. That is why we call it “love”.  Try to imagine a love so grand, so enormous that nothing could ever come between. What would that mean to you?

What was your upbringing like as a child?

Parents may have difficult time in being empathetic to a crying child because as children themselves, they were told that expressing feelings, crying, or being angry was not acceptable. What was your upbringing like? Our ability to accept and tolerate emotional expression sets a benchmark for our children’s ability to accept their own emotions and […]

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6 Minutes That Can Change Your Child’s Life (and Yours!)

Are you struggling with a child whose difficult or disturbing behaviors make you feel completely out of control? Spending hours trying to pacify a child whose lost it, or walking on eggshells just to avoid the next meltdown can leave you feeling utterly without hope. Whether your child has a diagnosis of reactive attachment disorder, […]

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How To “Un-See” Negative Behaviors in Children

While standing in line at the USPS office today, I noticed a woman with a big nose come in. Then I noticed myself commenting to myself about her nose (thinking… Wow! What a big nose!). After a short go-round with my thoughts and judgements, I began to wonder why I was judging her nose? It […]

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See the Fear, Not the Anger

We have been so intent on believing that children are angry, that we have failed to see the true emotions driving their behavior. The most focused on feeling of all is anger. This is an indication in itself that we are fearful beings. We are always looking to see anger because it is a threatening […]

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What is the #1 thing parents can do today?

What is the #1 thing parents can do today, so their kids grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults? … This is a great question yet at the same time it is one that requires a very different answer. The answer to what is the #1 thing parents can do today, so their kids grow […]

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Why Pro Athletes are Trying ‘Mindfulness Training,’ and Why You Should Too

A big article in June 3, 2015 USA Today says, “Mental Coaches Are Next Step in Conditioning as Baseball Teams Try to Tap Into Players’ Heads”. If professional sports is focused on this mushrooming practice, why not us parents? Read this quote and notice the similarity to what many, including us, have been promoting – […]

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How to deal with the trauma of dealing a traumatized child

Mindfulness can help parents deal with the trauma of dealing with their traumatized child. Here is a short but elegant medical/scientific explanation of how memories work and affect our state of mind. Professor Levine (Brian Levine, Ph.D, is a professor in the departments of psychology and medicine, Division of Neurology, and a senior scientist at […]

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How do I restore relationship with My Child?

How do I restore relationship with my 19 year old son no longer living in the home?” It seems challenging to think of rebuilding a lost relationship, especially with ones child. We fail to remember that they are in fact, our child. For a number of years all of the security, nurturing and guidance known […]

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