I have been presenting information regarding ‘feeling what you feel’ and other aspects that involve Mindfulness (i.e., paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally to whatever is arising inwardly and outwardly). Learning to feel at the level of sensory input I describe as ‘the longest journey in the world – the 18 inches from your head to your heart’.
Sadly, we spend most of our lives in our heads with thinking being the prime focus of our attention. Thinking has it’s place in our lives, but should be so directed by us when we want and need it rather than that which directs our behaviors and actions. Good parenting requires our being able to feel, and model that behavior to our children.
There is an important physiologic reasoning behind this and Jill Bolte Taylor has addressed this in her book. If we are not in touch with ‘what we feel’ (not emotionally mind you, but with our senses), we have to ‘interpret’ that which is happening instead of ‘knowing through experience’ what is. This puts parents at a great disadvantage of knowing what our children are going through and puts us back into ‘what we have been taught traditionally, triggering the old paradigm parenting approaches that only lead to the way things have been.
“As information processing machines, our ability to process data about the external world begins at the level of sensory perception. Although most of us are rarely aware of it our sensory receptors are designed to detect information at the energy level. Because everything around us–the air we breathe, even the materials we use to build with–are composed of spinning and vibrating atomic particles, you and I are literally swimming in a turbulent sea of electromagnetic fields. We are part of it. We are enveloped within it, and through our sensory apparatus we experience what is.” – My Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D.
Jill Bolte Taylor wrote this exciting treatise on her experience with a stroke that offered her a rare opportunity to see this event from a her exhaustive brain scientist’s vast experience of research on the brain. She has many examples of corollaries to what I teach and I will be sharing these with you. Especially valuable for those wanting to know more from of the science behind the psychology of what we teach.