The Root of Attachment Challenges…Trauma, Trauma, Trauma! by Bryan Post

Many children with severe behaviors such as chronic lying, stealing, aggressiveness, defiance, setting fires, bed wetting, poor parental relationships, etc. are increasingly being diagnosed as having an attachment disorder. Though having a label may initially give parents some relief in being able to identify the condition their child is struggling with, typically it only creates a scenario for frustration, guilt, blame and resentment.

Unfortunately a diagnosis in the mental health profession is rarely a positive thing. No parent wants a child with a diagnosis because it implies some inherent defect of the child. To have your child labeled as having Reactive Attachment Disorder, will typically not bring a parent any heightened sense of relief.

We must begin to understand the children demonstrating such serious behaviors as the ones listed, among many others, have all typically experienced some degree of trauma. Historically, our understanding of trauma has been limited to the horrible experiences depicted in the media, however, trauma occurs in many more situations that we are not even remotely aware of. Especially as it regards small children, trauma can occur through the adoption process, foster care, loss of a parent, frequent moves or caregivers, prolonged illness, divorce, parental depression, automobile accidents, and the list goes on and on. We must understand that trauma is any stressful event that is prolonged, overwhelming, or unpredictable. When we have not had an opportunity to cry, talk, scream, grieve, and mourn a traumatic event, sometimes repetitively, that experience has the ability to impact us throughout the rest of our lives.

When a traumatic event has occurred early in a child’s life it can have an impact on the system responsible for helping him to handle stress, respond appropriately to fear, and form lasting attachments with others. This system is referred to as the regulatory system. When this system is impaired it leaves the child stuck in a pervasive state of fear and easily overwhelmed by the seemingly mundane task of daily life. Rather than being disordered in attachment relationships, the child is extremely challenged in the presence of stress within any relationship.

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Do you know adults who experience marital, financial, or parental stress? Do they have problems with social relationships or compulsive or addictive behaviors related to work, drugs and alcohol, food or sex? Do you know adults who report depression, or uncontrollable anger?

Did you know that the latest research from the field of neuroscience shows that for at last 93% of the people experiencing these symptoms there is a direct link to attachment issues? Adult attachment issues are rarely given the level of consideration needed to pro-mote true healing for adult. If you are working with adults experiencing behavioral health issues, you must have an understanding of how attachment issues impact us, even into adult hood…INCLUDES LIVE DEMONSTRATIONS!

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  • - A Radical New Understanding of Difficult Children resource site. Lots of free stuff and training materials.
  • - A Parenting "Hands-On" Home Study Course for parents & professionals with RAD kids.
  • - Resource site for the latest info and research on Oxytocin, the hormone responsible for attachment and bonding.
  • - You Are Not Alone. If there were a way to personally interact with Bryan Post on a regular basis, would you be interested? If there were a community of other parents and professionals who wanted peace and harmony in their families as much as you, and you could learn from them, would you be interested in joining them?

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