On The Economy of Our Lives by Bryan Post

On the Economy of Our Lives

Dictionary.com offers several meanings of the word economy, two of which are: the disposition or regulation of the parts or functions of any organic whole; an organized system or method; and the efficient, sparing, or concise use of something: an economy of effort; an economy of movement.

The key to a more regulated and efficient society equally lies within the home, as the home also is reflected in society. When Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world", he spoke a simple truth, one that empowers us to seek to be an efficient and sparing part of a greater whole no matter how inefficient and unsparing that whole might appear to be. We matter. You matter. From within your home you can make a difference in the world. The energy and peace you can create gets pushed forward into the greater universe affecting everyone else. When you are in conflict, your ability to be efficient, sparing and working towards regulation impacts the greater universal system.

If you have ever found yourself in a "I don't care and I don't care that I don't care" (personal economy bankruptcy) state of mind, you know how difficult it is to love someone -- especially a challenging child. Karyn Purvis of TCU found that in blood testing exhausted, angry and desperate foster parents, there was a great lack of hormonal chemistry available for self-regulation. And no amount of " a good talking to" was going to help these parents, unless it was to say "take a week off of parenting, gets lots of rest and nutrition and be of good cheer". For each time we struggle, we are challenged with an opportunity to grow, to learn, renew and move forward. If you find yourself thinking or saying "I don't care" and believe it, you have missed a valuable opportunity for growth. If you think or say "I don't care therefore I must need rest, relaxation, breathing and nutrition", then you got the message loud and clear. Lesson learned.

Everyone is aware of the stress our economy is under at this time, more debt than income. The whole system is in a state of dysregulation. The parts are working against one another trying to survive. Cellular biologist Bruce Lipton states that in times of stress our cellular system constricts into survival. Yet the bodymind system only knows two states: thriving or surviving. In the past number of years our economic system has worked neither sparingly or efficient and now it has caught up with us.

This is the economy of our lives. The world we live in. We are challenged to be more efficient, more sparing, more concise in our contributions to the organic whole. Save your words during an argument, conserve your energy, move within and listen rather than expend. Save, accrue, and then spend wisely your words and actions of love. Utilize your energy efficiently and sparingly for a time will come that requires it and you will be ready to meet that challenge.

Always Choose Love,


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  1. I have a question.My son is 18 years old. He has been a thorn in my side for 4 years since he’s moved back with me from his father. I am just learning of the information about dealing with difficult children, that is provided by you. I am afraid that it may be too late for me to help him. My son has gotten a little better but he continues to be difficult. I need to know how to deal with a child that has come to adult age, which is no longer considered a child. Do I continue to deal with this child to try to find healing,or do I let it go.I want to ask him to leave, but I do not want to make his situation worser as far as his healing. what should I do?

    • Bryan Post says:

      Hi Kisha,
      Have you read From Fear to Love? Have you watched the From Fear to Love video: The Trauma Triangle? If not, this is where to start. Adulthood is not an age thing. You must relate to the emotional age. I know what you are going through. Really I do. It is a long process, but still a process. Do everything possible while being able to maintain the relationship before asking him to leave, but you can talk about the the options with him. Is he adopted or biological?

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