Lessons in Parenting Mindfulness #2: You Must Be Present to Win

Lessons in Mindfulness: #2 You Must Be Present to Win

Mindfulness is the ability to slow down enough to watch your own thoughts, sensations, perceptions and behaviors. It’s almost like stepping outside of your self and observing yourself. Through mindfulness, you make the unconscious conscious. An excellent source for parenting with mindfulness is Everyday Blessings by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn. I highly recommend this book to both parents and professionals.

I talk about mindfulness as one of the most important tools a parent can use to maintain their own state of calm and regulation, and thereby better influence and parent their children. To help you understand what mindfulness is, and how to use it, here are some other views and stories that can help you develop you own mindfulness practice.

According to Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, one of the leading mindfulness researchers, "mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non judgmentally."  Simple, elegant, and meaningful. Another way of saying this is, “be here, now”. I know this sounds self-evident (where else would I be?), but consider that what most of us experience is the past, the future or some representation of life and not the actual experience of the present moment. You must be present to win as is said, so let’s use this as a starting point. An example of this is, stop for a moment and just listen. What do you hear that you did not hear just a few moments ago? And if you are sitting, be aware of the chair you are sitting on. Notice any sensations or pressure points from the seat. And the floor beneath your feet… (to be cont’d).

Choose Love,


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