How to Have a Peaceful Holiday Season – Part 2 Prologue Con’t

Note: This is a yearly re-broadcast series to help parents prepare for, and have a more peaceful holiday season, we will be presenting the entire contents of my e-Book How to Turn Holiday Stress into Peaceful Family Time – On Sale for the Holidays between now and Christmas.

Don’t let the Holidays sneak up on you—they come every year around the same time. Many of our children have great difficulty staying regulated during this time—as do their parents. Be prepared. Plan ahead. Don’t let your frustration, fear or anger ruin the season. Use the Stress Model to help bring calm and peace on earth and goodwill toward all— especially children and parents!

Whether you drive or fly, travel challenges are stressful on the family. It’s also the longest time many spend together as a family in months. Being cramped together in a moving capsule for two, three, four or more hours with restless kids recently released from school can be stressful.

The family, work and school routines established over the year are gone. Everyone is out of their routine. We aren’t at work so we’re out of our routine. The kids weren’t in their school routine for at least two weeks. Now we’re spending hours together while in stress mode. Other triggers increase stress levels. If you’re in a car or minivan, kids yell to be heard. You thought that DVD/CD players would be a blessing for modern families. Sound overload. The greatest DVD’s in the world can’t entertain tired, stressed, out of routine kids forever.

What happens after the kids have watched DVD’s for hours? Arguing from the backseat of the car or at airport gate areas is a red flag that madness is stirring within them. Finally, you near your destination. Feel the energy shift of anticipation. The moment you arrive, there’s a whirling dervish exit. A Tasmanian devil is seen ripping out of the van, charging into the in-laws’ house and transforming into a creature who appears oblivious to having had one single boundary set since birth. Glancing up, you see faces of your welcoming relatives suddenly change from glee to ... what’s the word? Fear.

Stress and the holiday season! How can we rewrite that script? How do we turn stressful holidays into peaceful family time together? This is a fast-paced, straight-forward, little book written with hopes of your peaceful holiday season in mind.

I’m sitting down talking to my wife. We’re discussing our own stress during the holiday season. She says, “You know what? Last year you wrote a great article on helpful tips to survive the holidays. Parents loved it. Why not create an audio program or an e-book to help even more parents?”

That’s how this program came about. We all need support during times when stress levels are especially high. I created this audio program to make the holidays more enjoyable for families who are out of their routine. We’ll discuss ways to make this your best holiday season ever. We’ll go over some key hot button stressors. Simple tips can make a huge difference.

You have permission to copy this and circulate to as many people as you think can be helped Help us to bring peace on earth and goodwill toward all.

Timeless wisdom for preparing yourself and your challenging child for a smooth transition through the Holiday Season. Don’t let your fear of the past haunt you this year. Get Bryan’s 4 Point Plan – Don’t let the holidays just happen!

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How to Have a Peaceful Holiday Season – Part 1 Prologue

Note: This is a yearly re-broadcast to help parents prepare for, and have a more peaceful holiday season, we will be presenting the entire contents of my e-Book How to Turn Holiday Stress into Peaceful Family Time.On Sale 30% Off for the Holidays.

Don’t let the Holidays sneak up on you—they come every year around the same time. Many of our children have great difficulty staying regulated during this time—as do their parents. Be prepared. Plan ahead. Don’t let your frustration, fear or anger ruin the season. Use the Stress Model to help bring calm and peace on earth and goodwill toward all— especially children and parents!

Prologue

Gobble, gobble, gobble... Do you hear the sounds of the holidays? Sound familiar? The holiday season is on its way. It’s turkey time. It’s Santa time. For some, it’s the most stressful time of the year. How can the stressful holidays be turned into peaceful family time together? Seem impossible? Hello. I am Bryan Post. Welcome to my program on ways to create the kind of holiday season you deserve. The six-letter word that usually comes to mind when you think about the holidays is S-T-R-E-S-S.

Yes....stress and more stress. The closer we approach the holiday season, the more it seems to intensify. Right? What comes to mind when you start thinking about the holiday season? Seasonal madness. People driving back and forth to shop for Walmart specials and ‘limited time’ items. Text messages and phone calls announce additional tasks for your to-do list. Family visitors will soon arrive to juggle for limited space. More mouths to feed. Decorating jobs. The kids and pets running around like crazy. And then there’s cleaning. Yes, lots of cleaning.

Shopping is shear madness hysteria when there are ‘must get’ items to find. Meanwhile, holiday music in stores cheerfully remind us that everyone else seems to be enjoying the season. Why aren’t you? Have we forgotten something? The plays. Extra rehearsals. Kids need costumes. How many of us learn that a particular costume is needed the night before the big performance? (The kind that should be so easy to make...if you were into making things!) Any other school-related stressors? Testing. The last week in school before winter break means finishing projects, performing plays, giving gifts and taking tests. After that, students are released to parents for the LONG holiday season!

They are looking forward to Party Central for the rest of the holidays. They’re out of their routine by the time they reach the door. We’re out of OUR routine. Work, work, work, work. Collapse. Up again for more work. Repeat each year. We sometimes feel out of our minds with madness. Once holiday prep time is complete and decorations adorn your home, you sigh in relief...briefly.

If entertaining at home, meal-planning begins and then more shopping. What if you’re not cooking at home? That probably means a long drive to visit relatives. A two-hour drive or longer with squirming kids asking, “Are we there, yet?” Just as stressful, you fly. You drive to the airport two hours early praying no one packed liquids, gels or aerosols over three ounces and that you get through security without delays.

You have permission to copy this and circulate to as many people as you think can be helped Help us to bring peace on earth and goodwill toward all.

Timeless wisdom for preparing yourself and your challenging child for a smooth transition through the Holiday Season. Don’t let your fear of the past haunt you this year. Get Bryan’s 4 Point Plan – Don’t let the holidays just happen!

To purchase this twin-pack e-Book and mp3 audio file now on sale for only $6.95 click here.Holiday Bk and CD small

Holiday Gifting: 10 Ways to Reduce Stress by Bryan Post

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The holiday season is full steam upon us and unfortunately what is to be the most joyous and celebratory season of the year is oftentimes the most stressful, painful and chaotic.  I had the divine pleasure of interviewing Myla Kabat-Zinn, co-author of Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting back some time ago.  Every sentence she spoke, each phrase and response was full of loving mindfulness and intention. Myla gave openly what she has to all of us listening on the call in such a way that I believe it left us all wanting more. At least I know it did me. A simple gift of her time and effort, given with love, passion, and mindfulness, blessed me that evening. It cost nothing and was worth everything. This holiday (Holy-Day) season want to give you something. I want to give you permission that perhaps you have never been granted. These permissions are for your taking or leaving, give them thought and decide what you would like to do:

  1. I give you permission to remember that it is not what is under the tree, but who is around the tree. And if no tree, then just plain who is more important than what.
  2. I give you permission to love yourself. To take time for a walk, sit quietly, read a book, or call up an old friend to chat. Taking care of yourself first and foremost will give you the necessary emotional energy and space for caring for others.
  3. I give you permission to love your child. To not be overwhelmed, scared and worried about their behaviors for fear of how they will turn out 3, 4, 5, or 10 years from now. Love them today, in this moment. Let tomorrow worry for itself. Our friend Kathy Whitham says it nicely - "Talk less, breathe more".
  4. I give you permission to move quickly but mindfully and always able to stop and breathe in the cool fresh air when the moment strikes you.
  5. I give you permission not to buy anyone a single gift, but to rather gift them with your full, undivided, presence for one full hour, or day, whatever you can manage.
  6. I give you permission not to feel guilty for not buying gifts for others. Your presence is the most value gift you truly have to offer because it is your time. Time is nothing we can replenish. Each passing moment is a moment lost. If you have a hard time remembering this…
  7. Then I give you permission to give your time, thank God you have many moments left, to someone in a hospital or nursing home, who does not.
  8. I give you permission to be light and happy, unburdened by the stress of bills and work. Whether you are able to pay, able to work or not, tomorrow is still gonna come and no amount of stress today is gonna make you any more or less capable of paying that bill or getting that work done.
  9. I give you permission to set your fear aside, if even for only moments at a time, and let love guide you, fill you, and overwhelm you. Say, “I love you,” from the absolute depths of your heart.
  10. I give you permission to right a wrong, even if you were not the one who caused the wrong. We all have the ability to be reactive or responsive. There is so much more light within the individual who seeks to take ultimate responsibility. Love wins.

From our POST family to yours, we wish you a peace and joy filled holiday season when giving your heart is the highest form of giving and loving.

Choose Love,

B.

Last Chance! It's not too late to still get and read the short FREE download e-Book 
Holiday Peace: Turn Holiday Stress into Peaceful Family Time  by Bryan Post.  Help the Holidays Be Happy Times rather than Stressful Times with Bryan's 4 Point Plan!

"Classic" Bryan Post delivers tips, hints, wisdom and what not to do to help your family have a better holiday with his 4 Point Plan. Don't let the holidays "just happen". The Holidays should not come as a surprise. Plan ahead on how best to help your challenging child - and yourself, stayed regulated. Don't let your anger and frustration or your children's behaviors ruin your holidays. Use the Stress Model to bring Joy to the World, Peace on Earth and Goodwill toward All!

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